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  • Behaviour and Relationships

    Understanding behaviour. Restoring relationships. Building trust.

    At The Orchard School, we see behaviour as communication. Many of our pupils arrive with histories of trauma, anxiety, and unmet need — and our job is to respond with compassion, structure and support.

    Our approach to behaviour is rooted in Therapeutic Thinking and shaped by our Mission, Vision & Values: Everyone Matters. Everyone Cares. We prioritise emotional safety, trusting relationships, and reflective responses over control or punishment.

    Our Approach

    We use a relational model of behaviour support that focuses on:

    • Building consistent, caring relationships with trusted adults
    • Creating predictable environments that reduce anxiety
    • Teaching prosocial behaviour through modelling, feedback and reflection
    • Repairing relationships when things go wrong — not punishing emotions
    • Supporting pupils to understand and manage their feelings over time

    The 4Rs Framework

    All staff use our 4Rs model to guide therapeutic responses to dysregulation or crisis:

    1. Regulate – Help the pupil calm through sensory, relational or distraction-based support
    2. Relate – Reconnect through empathy, safety and non-judgement
    3. Reason – Once calm, use simple, respectful conversation to guide understanding
    4. Repair – Restore the relationship and move forward together

    What Families Can Expect

    • Behaviour support plans aligned with EHCPs and regularly reviewed
    • Clear communication if incidents occur — without blame or shame
    • Restorative conversations and reparation, not exclusion as a first step
    • Support from our Pupil Support Team and key adults to meet underlying needs
    • A commitment to working in partnership with families at every stage

    A Culture of Care

    Everything we do is grounded in The Orchard Way, supported by Therapeutic Thinking, and driven by the belief that pupils grow best when they feel safe, understood and valued.